As Carver observes, “The Loser feels your friends and family might influence you or offer negative opinions about their behavior…Eventually, rather than face the verbal punishment, interrogation, and abuse, you’ll develop the feeling that it’s better not to talk to family and friends.
Sometimes they opt for more subtle manipulation, such as by covertly turning the victim against her own family and friends (and vice versa).
Similarly, Carver notes that the Loser doesn’t have to exhibit all of the symptoms listed below to be dangerous.
The presence of even three of these symptoms indicates a potentially harmful relationship.
The cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean.
You may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor.